Embracing Imperfection

Embracing Imperfection

As Brene Brown put so well, “When perfectionism is driving, shame is always in the shotgun seat and fear is that annoying backseat driver!” Perfectionism gets in the way of many of the Compass Advantage attributes, such as resourcefulness, creativity and resilience. Like me, many Bainbridge Island adults and teens I talk to are “recovering” perfectionists.  Explore ways you can help your child learn from mistakes, not fear them.     Cezanne Allen, M.D. Are You Raising A Perfectionist? By Marilyn Price-Mitchell, PhD In today’s culture of high stakes testing and tough competition for college admissions, being a perfectionist is often seen as a desirable trait in children.  But recent studies show that perfectionist attitudes can interfere with a child’s ability to achieve goals and shape their futures. In fact, perfectionists often struggle with depression, anxiety, and low self-esteem. READ ENTIRE...

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Fostering Resourcefulness

Fostering Resourcefulness

“I’ve learned so much from my mentors, peers and coach Mr.Chee through robotics. I’ve learned how to work with adults professionally and how to recognize when my peers can help me. And besides learning how to use the tools and machines, I’ve learned how to make an idea a reality through hard work and creativity. My robotics mentors were there to guide us, and so were my teammates. We work together, lose together, and win together. My team has plenty of wonderful role models that reinforced all 11 skills that Marilyn Price-Mitchell talks about in the following article.” BHS Junior, Rose B.   Resourcefulness: How Parents Help Children Achieve Goals By Marilyn Price-Mitchell, PhD When our daughter Sarah was in 7th grade, her Latin Class held student chariot races—reenacting a sport that began in ancient Greece. Sarah’s goal was to build the best chariot so she and her team could win the competition. It was a fun school project, and one that had the potential to help Sarah learn resourcefulness—the ability to find and use available resources to achieve goals. Like most parents, we wanted to help our daughter in her quest to succeed. So, we came together as a family to build the best chariot possible. Sarah had an advantage over her classmates—her father is an architect with great design ideas. He is also a talented woodworker! The day for the races arrived. At least 20 homemade chariots lined the school playing field as students dressed in Roman togas took their places and proud parents cheered from the sidelines. Our daughter’s team won the race, and we were all excited. The truth? SEE ENTIRE...

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