Parenting is the hardest job around. I personally find it all too easy to get caught up in the busy, fast-paced minutia of day-to-day life and forget the big picture of what I really, truly care about as a parent. And I’m guessing others may have the same experience. Our Beyond the Report Card: Cultivating What Matters campaign is all about exploring what really, truly matters to each one of us as a parent. We invite you to read the following article as a roadmap of the journey we are embarking on over the next eight months. Help us start an Island movement, cultivating the conditions that help youth thrive. Let’s support each other in the tough job of parenting. Please join us. Sign up at right with your name and email and we will send you weekly updates with links to our newly published blog posts. Like us on Facebook where we will share even more resources. Add your reflections to our questions so we can learn from one another. After all, we are all in this together. Cezanne Allen, M.D. Director of Community & Youth Engagement Bainbridge Healthy Youth Alliance Successful Kids Need 8 Core Abilities: How to Parent with Purpose by Marilyn Price Mitchell, PhD. Successful kids get excellent grades, right? They play at least one sport very well. Successful kids do regular community service and, of course, take Advanced Placement courses. They attend the best colleges and attain great-paying jobs. Wait. If you’ve ever envisioned this fairy-tale definition of kids’ success, it’s time to look beyond external measurements to the internal abilities that help children and teens learn to successfully pilot their own healthy and productive lives — today and as future adults. READ ENTIRE ARTICLE Join our Island Conversation: What does raising a genuinely successful child mean to you? After you’ve read the above article, please come back and join the...Read More
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When my kids were younger and their behavior was driving me crazy, I hadn’t a clue how transformative it was for kids to feel loved and accepted at their core before their hard-to-accept behaviors are dealt with. I reverted to “get them back on track NOW”. After all, that’s how I was raised. And, although I swore I would do things differently, stress me out and out popped the old model—one that didn’t help anyone, including myself, feel loved or accepted. If I wanted to change, I had to practice to be different, not just aspire to be different. Well, after years of in-depth study of behavioral neuroscience and personal practice, mixed with a humbling wisdom learned over time, I share with you some ideas you might try to help your child feel your unconditional love and benefit from your guidance and loving limits…connect, then redirect. Karolynn Flynn, M.Ed, Program Chair, Raising Resilience How does a parent convey unconditional love and support? Here are some suggestions when you need a refresher: I’m glad you are you. You and I can disagree and I’ll still always love you. You’re lovable just the way you are. I love you, not your grades. I love your happy and your grumpy—your happy is just more fun. No, you didn’t keep our agreement, but that doesn’t mean I love you less. It means you try again. My love is with you no matter where, no matter what happens. Welcome home. Love seeing you at the end of the day. I love you and I have faith in your ability to solve this. I’ll support you but can’t do it for you. I love you but I don’t like the choice you made. Help me understand what happened. Adapted from Raising Resilience Parenting Curriculum by Karolyn Flynn. Join in an Island conversation: What do you do to show your child unconditional support? Please share and help us learn from each...Read More
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12 things our teens suggest we start or keep doing to help them along successful paths to adulthood. And 12 things our teens ask that we stop doing to help them along successful paths to adulthood.Read More
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Want your child to be happy, wise, and successful on the journey to adulthood? You lead the way through your own actions and attitudes. Take this quiz to discover how well you model the behaviors that research suggests leads children toward self-sufficiency and thriving.
We suggest you take this quiz now and then at the end of our 8 month exploration of the core internal attributes of the Compass Advantage model of positive youth development.Read More