Embracing Imperfection

Embracing Imperfection

As Brene Brown put so well, “When perfectionism is driving, shame is always in the shotgun seat and fear is that annoying backseat driver!” Perfectionism gets in the way of many of the Compass Advantage attributes, such as resourcefulness, creativity and resilience. Like me, many Bainbridge Island adults and teens I talk to are “recovering” perfectionists.  Explore ways you can help your child learn from mistakes, not fear them.     Cezanne Allen, M.D. Are You Raising A Perfectionist? By Marilyn Price-Mitchell, PhD In today’s culture of high stakes testing and tough competition for college admissions, being a perfectionist is often seen as a desirable trait in children.  But recent studies show that perfectionist attitudes can interfere with a child’s ability to achieve goals and shape their futures. In fact, perfectionists often struggle with depression, anxiety, and low self-esteem. READ ENTIRE...

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Fostering Resourcefulness

Fostering Resourcefulness

“I’ve learned so much from my mentors, peers and coach Mr.Chee through robotics. I’ve learned how to work with adults professionally and how to recognize when my peers can help me. And besides learning how to use the tools and machines, I’ve learned how to make an idea a reality through hard work and creativity. My robotics mentors were there to guide us, and so were my teammates. We work together, lose together, and win together. My team has plenty of wonderful role models that reinforced all 11 skills that Marilyn Price-Mitchell talks about in the following article.” BHS Junior, Rose B.   Resourcefulness: How Parents Help Children Achieve Goals By Marilyn Price-Mitchell, PhD When our daughter Sarah was in 7th grade, her Latin Class held student chariot races—reenacting a sport that began in ancient Greece. Sarah’s goal was to build the best chariot so she and her team could win the competition. It was a fun school project, and one that had the potential to help Sarah learn resourcefulness—the ability to find and use available resources to achieve goals. Like most parents, we wanted to help our daughter in her quest to succeed. So, we came together as a family to build the best chariot possible. Sarah had an advantage over her classmates—her father is an architect with great design ideas. He is also a talented woodworker! The day for the races arrived. At least 20 homemade chariots lined the school playing field as students dressed in Roman togas took their places and proud parents cheered from the sidelines. Our daughter’s team won the race, and we were all excited. The truth? SEE ENTIRE...

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Raising Trustworthy Kids

Raising Trustworthy Kids

“We tell lies when we are afraid… afraid of what we don’t know, afraid of what others will think, afraid of what will be found out about us. But every time we tell a lie, the thing that we fear grows stronger.” Tad William Choosing Honesty: Tips for Raising Trustworthy Kids By Deborah Farmer Kris Recently, I heard toddler screams emanating from the living room. When I went to check on my kids, I found a distraught two-year-old and a four-year-old who seemed to be holding something behind her back. Naturally, this prompted to a few questions: Me: Do you know why your brother is mad? Daughter: Oh yes! He wants his toy car. Me: Do you know where it is? Daughter: Maybe somebody took it and hid it! Me: Hm, can you tell me who took it? Daughter: I don’t know! [Long, long pause] Daughter: I think maybe it was me. If your child has ever lied to you, take heart: it turns out that most kids have a strong tendency to lie when they transgress rules or expectations. Read Entire Article...

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Teaching Kids Integrity

Teaching Kids Integrity

“This month we turn to a timely topic. Integrity-we all want our kids to have it, but how do we teach living a life ‘consistent with the values, beliefs and moral principles we claim to hold?’  Easier said than done!  Read on to hear about Mary O’Donohue’s ‘parent epiphany,’ which I found refreshingly honest.” Cezanne Allen, M.D.   Teaching Children to Have Integrity By Mary O’Donohue Ever have a parenting epiphany? A moment when something just makes you think, “Whoa, wait a minute. I’ve been doing this all wrong! I need to change direction.” That happened to me a few years ago when my daughter Grace was five. I caught her trying to steal a candy bar at the checkout counter of a local store. When I told her to put it back, she looked at me as if to say, “There’s nothing to see here. I don’t know what you’re talking about.” Even as her 10 year-old brother chided, “You’re gonna get in trouble,” Grace just pretended nothing had happened. READ ENTIRE...

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The Power of Family Movie Night

The Power of Family Movie Night

“What better way to spend a weekend evening than to curl up with my kids on the couch with a good movie and popcorn?  I don’t often think of using movies to help inspire important family conversations. Read Marilyn Price-Mitchell’s tips for using movies to foster the internal strengths that help kids thrive.” Marina Cofer-Wildsmith, Executive Director, Bainbridge Youth Services Family Movies That Will Inspire Teens and Their Parents by Marilyn Price-Mitchell, PhD Family movies rock! And for many reasons! In today’s busy world, watching movies gives families time to slow down, be entertained, and be together. But family movies have the potential to do so much more. They can quite literally shape children’s lives. One way for teens to learn about and act on the core abilities of The Compass Advantage is to first identify the compass abilities in others. How can teens do this with their family? READ ENTIRE ARTICLE Note: Have younger kids? Search here for films appropriate for kids of all ages on Common Sense Media.com....

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